Sugar dating is like a modern twist on relationships where an older, more financially able person, known as the sugar daddy (or sugar mommy), dates a younger person, known as the sugar baby. The “twist” is that the relationship has no BS, the terms are laid out upfront, and the relationship is based on a win-win situation – the sugar baby receives financial support from the sugar parent in return for their time and companionship.
Sugar relationships often get a bad reputation, but luckily, times are changing. With the rise of technology, dire economic situations, and changes in societal attitudes, sugar relationships aren’t as taboo as they were considered in the recent past.
That being said, the dynamics of a sugar relationship are still murky waters. If you’re thinking of becoming a sugar baby yourself, you gotta be prepared for the ride. To help you get started and pave the way for sweet success, we’ve asked Tracy, a seasoned sugar baby, to help us put together a sugar baby checklist! Keep reading for this educational interview.
Q: Hi Tracy, thanks for being here! We’re on a mission to create a sugar baby checklist to help all sugar babies stay safe and have a pleasant time in the sugar bowl. You’ve been a sugar baby for 6 years, so we thought you’d be the right person to ask. Please take us away!
Tracy: It’s my pleasure to help all my sugar sisters out there. The sugar dating game isn’t easy when you’re just starting out. But with a little guidance and support, you can have the best time, plus a healthy bank account 😛
Let’s start from the very beginning.
Getting Started As A Sugar Baby
Most people think sugaring is as easy as jumping on an app, but let me tell you, there’s a whole lotta self-discovery involved if you want to have a good time. You don’t often hear about this side of sugaring, so listen up!
KNOWING YOURSELF
Knowing yourself is important if you want to be a sugar baby because you need to be clear on your goals, expectations, and boundaries. People think sugar dating has no boundaries, but it’s quite the opposite. Drawing clear boundaries is essential to protect yourself. It’s also important to help you find the right sugar daddy whose expectations align with yours while avoiding awkward conversations down the line.
Now, self-discovery is a journey, so don’t expect to figure it all out at once. I suggest spending time with your thoughts, taking care of yourself, and checking in with yourself every now and then to become in tune with your true thoughts and feelings.
It goes without saying staying safe should be your top priority! Whether it’s Tinder, Bumble, or Sugarbook, the online dating world is full of creeps. Make sure to spend some time getting to know potential daddies by chatting with them online. Ask for pictures and video calls to vet them, and make sure to use secure communication, such as chatting on the apps themselves. If the conversation seems suspicious, trust your gut and move on to the next candidate.
CHOOSING THE RIGHT PLATFORM
Make sure to create your account over at Sugarbook, with over 4.5 million members worldwide. The app encourages you to state your Terms of Relationships, helping you to find a Daddy who matches your expectations. Sugarbook is also unique because the platform offers many ways for sugar babies to gain visibility and engage with many sugar daddies at once through their live streaming feature. If you love being on screen, it can be a great way to maximize your income, so be sure to check it out!
STARTING CONVERSATIONS
CRAFTING A GOOD OPENING MESSAGE
So, what do you say when you find a match? Try getting some ideas by studying their profile! Start by mentioning something specific from their profile, such as their bio or photos, to show that you’ve taken the time to understand their interests. If you think you have something in common, that’s always a good way to break the ice!
The key here is to be direct and confident with your approach, and it doesn’t hurt to inject some humor and wit. Express genuine interest in getting to know them while subtly highlighting what you can bring to the table.
SCREENING POTENTIAL DADDIES
Keep in mind that the first few conversations with potential matches are crucial in helping you identify the real vs fake daddies. Once the niceties are over, don’t be afraid to jump into essential questions such as their expectations for the relationship since that’s what sugar dating is all about! Make sure to scrutinize every reply and try to spot red flags. Don’t worry, you’ll get better with every match!
SETTING TERMS AND AGREEMENTS
IMPORTANCE OF COMMUNICATION
Oh, another skill you’ll get better with as a sugar baby is your communication skills. Communication is how you can express your goals, expectations, and boundaries. Discussing financial arrangements will be easier by knowing what you want and clearly communicating it.
THE ART OF NEGOTIATION
In some cases, you may need to negotiate a little to find common ground. You may need to compromise on some things, but never let go of your boundaries. If it isn’t a suitable match, the next best step is to move on to the next candidate. And when disagreements happen, as they may now and then, remember to handle them amicably. My advice is to never dwell on a bad conversation or date; just move on!
FIRST DATE TIPS
PREPARING FOR THE MEETING
Once you’ve done so, you’re sure and ready to meet the potential daddy for the first time; choosing the right place is important to ensure safety. Opt for public places and find somewhere with a nice atmosphere where you can have a conversation.
Again, I can’t stress how important this is – safety first! Never go on a first date without letting someone close to you know where you’ll be. Some daddies may offer to pick you up for the date, but especially if it’s your first meeting, I suggest getting there yourself just to be extra careful.
MAKING A LASTING IMPRESSION
That aside, you’ll want to dress appropriately to make a good impression. After all, if the daddy’s expectations align with yours, you’d want them to seal the deal! Most daddies wanna meet for drinks on the first date, so I have a few go-to little black dresses that never fail me. My advice is to go for something nice and comfortable. Makeup-wise, I like to go for the “no-makeup makeup look” plus a red lip for a hint of sexiness.
Be your authentic, true self when getting to know each other so that you’ll form a connection based on your genuine interactions. Listen attentively to what the other person is saying while smiling and nodding every now and then to show interest and that you’re paying attention.
Q: Wow, those are some useful tips! Do you have anything else to add before we end our interview?
Tracy: I hope I didn’t miss anything! I’d like to add one last thing – from my experience, genuine sugar daddies are a lot of fun to talk to! I enjoy listening to their stories, and they seem to enjoy listening to mine. In fact, another way to tell genuine and salt daddies apart is from the way they treat you, whether via text or in person. Real sugar daddies will treat you the way you deserve, with respect!
To wrap things up, venturing into sugar dating requires a thoughtful and empowered approach. It can be challenging to remember everything, so we’ve put together a checklist that every sugar baby can follow, thanks to the help of Tracy, our seasoned sugar baby!
Let’s recap the key takeaways: Firstly, self-awareness is essential to understanding your goals, expectations, and boundaries. Secondly, choose the right platform and thoroughly screen potential candidates before in-person meetings. Thirdly, pick a safe and comfortable place for your first date, dress the part, and engage in genuine conversation to have a good time. Lastly, remember to prioritize safety at every step of the way!
We hope that this checklist can set you up for sugar dating success! For more information and tips on sugar dating, check out our other articles:
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